There’s been a lot of talk about the “black pill” lately.
The “black pill” is supposedly the “red pill of red pills,” or rather, the even more brutal, realistic truths that most “red pill” guys don’t even want to hear.
Proponents of the black pill talk about race and attractiveness, sex and politics, and other topics that most shudder at the thought of.
In this article, I’d like to take some time to explore this idea of the black pill, and why I think it’s important, but often misapplied to life.
What is The Black Pill? (Red Pill 2.0)
I remember when I was around 13, and I first discovered what was deemed the “red pill.”
Blogs, forums, authors, and random men across the globe were telling me to stop “validating women.” EGAD!
They were telling me things like:
- Men love idealistically, women love opportunistically
- Women fuck alphas, and use betas
- Modern men are pussies
- Feminism destroys nations
- Hypergamy is very, very real
- And a whole bunch of other uncomfortable truths
At first, I was shocked. Like many, I went through the “5 Stages of Red Pill,” from denial, to eventually, acceptance.
The red pill has changed my life in many ways that most others cannot even fathom.
It took me from being a helpless little boy, and led me towards the path of becoming an alpha male.
…and for that I am grateful. Yet there’s something else out there, unbeknownst to many, called the black pill. Now just what is that?
The Black Pill
Now of course, it’s always difficult to summarize a whole theory or school of thought, that’s comprised of numerous beliefs and individuals.
…but, I will try my best. As far as I can tell, the “black pill” is sort of like the red pill, but with a very nihilistic tint.
Where the “red pill” describes how reality is, and urges you on to make changes in your life, the “black pill” says that there are some people who are just completely doomed to lose.
The “red pill” says that you can do things to improve your dating life, but the “black pill” says that for some men, your fate is eternal failure.
Here are some commonly discussed pill topics, that many will find uncomfortable:
- Racial preferences in dating
- Looks preferences in dating
- Incels (and how some men are doomed)
- Society will burn, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it
Can you see why many have a base impulse to reject the black pill? It accepts many of the core tenets of the red pill, but the major difference is that “red pillers” believe you can change things, and there is fundamentally a path out of all this shit.
Black pillers, though? They’d prefer to throw their hands up and watch the whole damn thing burn to the ground.
The Truth: Take The Black Pill
The truth, my friends, is almost always in the middle. To me, it’s strange for people to distinguish between the “red pill” and the “black pill” because to me, there was never any difference.
The pill is just what you get when people discover the red pill, and give up.
Fundamentally, they’re both the same thing, with one difference: your application of the truth.
There is no “black pill,” just “red pill” and different people who apply it different ways.
I prefer to ACCEPT the “red pill truths” that noobs to the manosphere are calling “black pilled,” and simply change things.
For example… one of the most common questions I get is: “Jon, you say that looks don’t matter… but then sell an eBook on working out! What gives?”
Here’s what gives: you should do everything to maximize your looks, but after a certain point, they really don’t matter.
OBVIOUSLY people who look like Brad Pitt are going to have an easier time pulling girls. No shit. People present this argument to me as if I’m somehow unaware of it. I’m not.
But the point is that, if you DON’T look like Brad Pitt, you have two choices:
- Be a bitch and argue all day about how looks matter, and how you’re doomed to an eternal life of failure
- Just grow a fucking pair, work on your appearance, and do the best you can
I’m sure you know which choice I’ve taken. Which have you taken?
The Black Pill on Looks
Again, women obviously have looks preferences. So do men.
Men prefer thin waists, large hips, and perky breasts. We also prefer facial symmetry, and other indicators of high estrogen and high fertility.
Women on the other hand, prefer tall men, with defined jawlines, and wide shoulders.
No shit. Only an autist would present this fact to me as if I’m not aware of it. We all know that women prefer good looking men.
The black pill , which is comprised of mostly virgins and incels who haven’t spent more than 3 hours trying to go out and learn game, believes that if you aren’t born with good looks, then that just the end of everything, and you should give up and go MGTOW.
The red pill however, believes that you should do everything you can to maximize your looks, and then your money, your game, and everything else.
This is obviously what I believe, and it’s what winners believe. Winners don’t complain that they weren’t given the best hand in life.
They just. Take. Fucking. Action.
The Black Pill on Race
Another common topic is that women have certain racial preferences in who they date.
They do. This is a fact.
BUT, and here’s what’s critical, you can’t do anything to change it.
You weren’t born a 6’3″ white guy, with blue eyes, broad shoulders, and a jawline like an anvil?
Okay. So what?
Obviously having good looks will make it easier to attract women.
But do you know what matters far more than your looks, in my experience? Your game.
Your ability to spike a girl’s emotions, lead her, and escalate on her in a socially savvy manner, will ALWAYS trump your looks. Every single time.
Guys will endlessly argue with me on this topic, but when it comes down to it, they don’t have the experience I do.
It’s always incels who’ve gotten laid 5 times (and think that’s a lot) that argue with me on this shit.
“B-B-BUT—“
No. No fucking buts. Go out 3x/week for a year, and tell me if you still think that “looks are more important than game.”
Why I Like The Black Pill
Now, while I mostly think that the “black pill” community is filled with a bunch of self-pitying losers, I do think they bring up a lot of good points.
Yes, it’s getting harder in our modern, feminism-crippled society, to date attractive, thin women.
Yes, female hypergamy is being “let loose” and making it difficult for the average man to get a girlfriend.
…and yes, there are some things in life, that you just can’t change.
Of course. I agree with all of these things.
My only quibble with the “black pill” is that there’s no call to action. There’s just a bunch of circle-jerking self-pity that doesn’t actually change anything.
So here is my call to action for you, friends. Accept reality for what it is. Accept that you may not be the best looking guy. Accept that women and men both prefer certain things in each other… and just go out there and do the best you can at everything you do.
If you’re looking for a quick, easy way to 10x your attractiveness to women, then look no further than my 7 Strategies Secrets Program. It fixes the underlying problem with your game, by making you more MASCULINE, and thus far more naturally attractive to women.
This is your life, and no amount of bitching or theorizing will change the fact that things aren’t the way you want them to be. Fundamentally, when it really comes down to it, nobody can control your life accept for you. Indulging in constant “black pill” videos and articles is just another way to avoid self-responsibility.
So go out there and take action. You’re not making enough money? Then start a business on the side. You’re not as happy as you could be? Figure out why, and make a change. You’re not dating the women you want? Work on your appearance, practice game, and take more action. Do this, and in a year, you won’t even remember what the “black pill” was.
❓ What is The Black Pill?
The Black Pill is a nihilistic philosophy, which is a tangent off of the Red Pill. Where the Red Pill exposes people to uncomfortable truths, the Black Pill ultimately states that there's nothing we can do about these truths, and that we should stop trying to change them.
❓ Should You Take The Black Pill?
In my experience, taking the "Black Pill" makes one nihilistic and cynical, so I don't recommend it. While there are certainly uncomfortable truths in life, you can overcome an enormous amount of obstacles if you're simply willing to try. I take the Red Pill, not the Black Pill.
❓ What's The Difference Between The Red Pill and The Black Pill?
The Red Pill is a "catch all" term, used to describe the uncomfortable truths about the dating market, wealth, social inequalities, and political truths. The Black Pill is based off of the Red Pill, however it takes a more nihilistic approach to the problems of the world.
Bro, you are a grifter. You are like 9/10 super androgenic male. And you are, what I’m going to call, chadsplaning to incels who are like 3/10 with zero bones. Plus you are a millennial. I should start my own website where I shame grifters like you. Wouldn’t even be libel because you are a grifter.
Male preference in women is far more diverse than female. A sizeable portion of men like chubby women. Men also don’t care about height nearly as much as women do. None of this matters because the average fat 50 year old woman can sleep with a decent looking guy half her age by using dating apps. Women reject somewhere around 95% of men on dating apps while men reject about half of women.
Small breasts are rarely a problem for men while small penis is considered a huge problem to women.
You are like a snake oil sales man! No matter what your game is if you are short and ugly, you are not going to get women, you know this truth, but are still trying to sell a pipedream to guys for your profit.
Congratulations. You basically proved his point.
Go back to your little circlejerk on incels . is and scream into the void.
Fucking little incel cocksucker.
I agree that taking the black pill isn’t the best option yet I wonder, instead of upping your game, what about working on a personality? Your looks might not be those of Brad Pitt, but you can be funny. Instead of being a B version of what is supposed to be good looking, you can also work on being creative, work on being an A version of yourself. And instead of choosing women you want to date on their boobs and ass, maybe check first if she has something interesting to say. And then maybe, just maybe, you can respect people on another level and not only care about looks or game as if you’re hunting prey.
To clarify my comment. Look at it like loaf of bread. When there’s just a small amount of visible mold the whole loaf gets tossed. Same principle applies to the whole of humanity. Scorch it all.
You forgot to mention that many MGTOWs (who differ from incels) have had their fair share of relationshits and now just prefer to work on self improvement and fulfillment while having a FTW towards society in general.
Fair point!
I dont agree with any of this garbage. For starters it all depends on where you live, and not all women care about looks either unless your talking about shitty Western ones. Any guy who can afford to travel abroad, doesn’t have to deal with these problems. And there are some people who truly can’t change the way their life is no matter what they do. That takes a level of understanding to know this, not ripping crap off from the Matrix.
Like my Uncle for example. A man who served in the military, once he got out he got fucked just like the vast majority of men who serve. What happened next?
He tries to commit suicide because he couldn’t deal with how hard life was after he was out of the military, then when his brother died he became even worse. Granted he’s doing okay now, but sometimes I feel like all of this red pill, blue pill, black pill stuff is just a excuse for some men to act like assholes toward other men who struggle. And then call it “Truth.” I have a lot of brothers with mental health problems, and I am supportive of them without sounding like an Ahole and calling it “Reality talk.”
Besides if you live in a feminist dominated country your f*cked regardless. And not every one can just CHANGE shit just because you or someone else can, thats like telling homeless people they can change their lives when its not even that easy to do so. There is a reason why some men decide to just become criminals when they realize they can’t exactly rise above something the natural way.
Their willing to die to make their lives better or get locked up for life, I use to be that way in my teens before I got caught up because working like a slave with learning disabilities got me nowhere. So I stole from other people, I grinded, I hustled, I did whatever to get out of poverty. Once I did community service at 13 I spent close to 6 years looking for a regular job, didnt get hired until I was 27 only to get fired because some fat fuck white lady had an issue with my race.
Personally I dont socialize with most males, because the ones claiming red pill they come off as being dickless assholes, not to mention their some of the most closed minded morons on the planet that can’t even befriend people who aren’t straight or trans. They are absolutely terrified of those people even if one is capable of saving their damn lives.
Sorry to hear about your uncle, man. I definitely do think some people abuse the system and it needs to be stopped, but I also think that there’s certain uncomfortable biological realities that people gladly ignore in lieu of a more comfortable lie.
Hi me again(last comment probably thanks for reading though), Nicely written here, apparently you know more than I assumed so I apologize, I should’ve read everything first. Now the “Society will burn, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it” sums me up quite clearly and I can see why you replied as so before, as you are correct, I should stop theorizing and take responsibility to try to fix anything that is missing in my life(that I want of course), in other words put all that time and energy of learning and theorizing around dreaded things and put it towards myself. Another term is accelerationism? Black Pigeon Speaks has said it(one out of tonnes of resources), basically its “society will burn” part but you make it burn faster which in itself isn’t logically wrong either lol…. Thank you and bye!
Thank you my friend, and of course. I understand the concept of accelerationism, but it’s not very smart, in my opinion. We don’t want the world to burn, because it’s 10x easier to change the existing civilization than it is to build one from the ground up. For example, we can use the internet to spread ideas and network. We can’t do that if all of society burns. I like Black Pigeon Speaks, but I think he’s way too nihilistic and defeatist sometimes. He does have good analyses, though.